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I will agree with most that professional support is needed. For me... I had to realize that I could not change people interact with but I could change how I reacted... Not ideal. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
Phase 1: Can't change people. Phase 2: Can control how I react (to diminish the harm I feel). Phase 3: I feel less harmed, but my reaction shouldn't further enable their shitty behavior. Phase 4: See ya! And I'm skipping phases 2 and 3 from now on.