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I'm asexual, through & through. It's understandable that sex / sexual content is inevitable in such a wide open space, but on R×ddit, it's become absolutely constant and inescapable! To the point where non-sexual things are being sexualized, and it's just become genuinely unnerving and gross.
I want to stop seeing posts commenting on everyday objects and being like "Damn, I'd fuck that!", as if anyone truly wanted to know that. Ever. Ick.
It's pretty eye opening to read this. As someone with a fairly high sex drive, I live every day with my body constantly demanding I have sex. It's not a difficult urge to keep in check, but it is pretty constant.
I think the humor you're talking about stems from that constant battle. No one (well someone, but not most people) would actually have sex with whatever inanimate object is being posted. Its just making light of that constant urge most of us face.
But I totally get how that could sound disgusting if you don't share that experience. I will try to keep that in mind for the aces out there.
I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Do note, though, that there are aces who don't mind sexual discussions or comments. The only connecting factor between the label is that we do not experience sexual attraction, nor do we desire to have sex.
Some aces break it down further into preferences when it comes to sexual discussion: sex-neutral, sex-averse, and sex-repulsed. Sex-positive is there, too, as some aces have no issues discussing it, but that often gives the impression/misinterpretation that there are aces who desire sex, which is obviously an oxymoron.
Lastly, the asexual community is actually very very very small. Like, ridiculously so. The chances of you running across an ace-identifying person is a fraction of a percent, so don't worry too much about tiptoeing to cater to our subsect (although I very much appreciate the sentiment)!