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Last week I got myself a tape measure, figured out some sizing things and ordered a cheap dress online. It looked good, and for the first time in my life I felt beautiful. I felt like I could actually pull of a transition and not look like an ugly man in a dress. I giggled and cried and it felt so good. The next day I went to the mall, got my ears pierced, bought all the girly things I was brave enough to in person. Then I paced around mac like a weirdo until I worked up the courage to go in and ask for help picking makeup. They were great and super helpful getting me some basics. When I went home, I put my dress on, and thought I'd take it slow and just put on some lipstick and paint my nails. When I saw myself, I felt like an ugly old man in lipstick, and it fucking ruined all the euphoria from before. I know I can get past that, do my makeup better and find something more comfortable, but I wanted to hang on to that feeling forever. I saw the woman I know I am inside for a moment and wanted the rest to just happen. It's not gonna be that easy though, is it?

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[โ€“] boogetyboo@aussie.zone 30 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Cisgender woman here, so my advice is only in relation to makeup. Lipstick is like the icing on a fancy cake. Some days or events you just want to be a cute cupcake rather than a 3-tier fondant covered cake.

If I don't fully make up my face but then add lipstick, it looks quite harsh and unflattering. Similarly if I made up my whole face but didn't use lipstick or mascara - it would look odd. This may be what you saw in the mirror that day. So please don't be disheartened.

Start with light, day makeup. Little bit of mascara, a hint of blush and some tinted lip gloss. That's one cute cupcake. Work your way up to that fancy cake!

[โ€“] prim3r@lemmy.ca 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wow I have a lot to learn lol. Thank you so much! ๐Ÿ’•

[โ€“] boogetyboo@aussie.zone 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just had a headstart on all this, that's all! You're lucky in that you live in the age of YouTube tutorials...when I was coming up I just copied the magazines and my mum. To very questionable outcomes!

Don't feel like you need to spend a lot of money while you're experimenting either - drug store/supermarket brands are perfectly fine:)

[โ€“] prim3r@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Youtube is a life saver for sure. I'm sure I'll have a few questionable outcomes soon enough though lol.

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